"In a world like ours, which discredits the childbearing and rearing, it seems that caring for babies and children is an anecdotal and isolated in the history of person, who has no influence beyond childhood, and of course no relationship with society.
live as if run well because today is dominated by a mechanized parenting: baby bottle instead of breastfeeding, pacifier rather than a consolation, arm or breast, child care rather than mother, cribs away from the room parents, of dolls that mimic the heartbeat, hammocks and swings several of cameras to monitor the baby in the distance, or cooing lullabies CDs, etc.
however, does influence parenting in adulthood and therefore the lifetime of the person, and does determine how society is. And its consequences are of such magnitude and depth come to explain the level of violence in every culture.
Although other factors such as genetic, economic, etc. the variable that best defines the level of emotional balance of a society is the kind of care it provides to its children and people who depend on his family. And we are then with 2 groups of models of parenting and life: violent or peaceful.
The difference between them lies in the type of delivery, early mother-infant separation, the existence of extended breastfeeding or not, respect the needs of children day and night, skin contact is established, the number of adults per child-carers, the speed of response to crying ... and ultimately, if there is an attachment or detachment parenting.
little affected peoples with their young and with little skin contact has high levels of violence in adulthood. However, the aggressiveness is almost nil among people who maintain close contact and continue with their children.
The anthropology have noted this fact countless times, but, if there was any doubt, the modern psyconeuroendocrinology also confirmed and justified: the less contact with a baby, less secure and more fearful and feel your brain secretes more adrenaline. In contrast, more affection, contact and love, more circuits are activated brain serotonin.
Taking into account brain plasticity in the early years of life, and how experiences shape the neural architecture and adult personality, the predominance of one or another hormone creates different individuals. The constant physical and emotional contact with the mother (the primary source of love) is what settles the brain systems for pleasure and creates confident, trusting and loving. When the child does not receive the affection need to create a culture based on selfishness, violence and authoritarianism.
Each author has named differently: learned helplessness, helplessness, learning of helplessness, hopelessness, submission, ... but basically all the same: suffering and resignation, that determine a cold shoulder to the world and to each other and only in certain circumstances may be reversed.
could believe that all these theories of hormones and attachment only works with remote tribes in a society with no mp3, cosmetic surgery, mortgage and laser. Not so.
adrenaline and aggression That we define ourselves and also explains the devastation that we have submitted to Nature, the unjust international order, the figures for poverty and hunger, and violence between countries and within their own families.
How did we get here? Although the explanations are multiple, the most powerful and bright (for the system) has been disturbing the mother-child relationship that nature has provided to ensure the physical, emotional, intellectual and social development of a person.
Attacking the root attachment are achieved vulnerable citizens, always in need and longing for something more, confused, submissive and dependent on a consumer society consuming.
But to achieve a radical break is needed gear different players get totally blind trial and maternal instinct. They succeeded. And these are my 15 charges:
1. acknowledge the pharmaceutical industry have become the natural processes of women in extremely profitable diseases, menstruation, contraception, pregnancy, childbirth, breastfeeding, parenting, and menopause.
2. acknowledge the contraceptive pill (and all hormonal products in healthy women in general) have completely altered our delicate endocrine balance and rob us of intuitive messages coming from the unconscious to the different phases of the female menstrual cycle, the relationship between ovarian hormones and certain activities of the cerebral hemispheres. This is one of the basic problems surprisingly hidden. The women were not disconnected in the delivery of themselves for the first time, but who for years have disengaged from the ancient feminine wisdom and more a laboratory attached to his own body.
3. acknowledge the business of artificial fertilization to take advantage of women desperate to conceive and subjected to painful, expensive and lengthy process, instead of analyzing the true causes (and correctable) of failure in pregnancy, and that would force us to rethink the pace and lifestyle that we all levels.
4. acknowledge the food industry of its macabre and effective strategy to convince half a century of women and ensure that the milk of an animal (whose brain is much smaller than human) chemically treated, supplied in plastic, and cold hands, many times, has supplied the warmth, love and the miracle of a tit tender. This economic success has meant a death sentence for millions of children in underdeveloped countries, and high risk of disease, fewer cognitive and detachment in rich countries. Lack of breastfeeding means no less enamored of oxytocin and mother-son, and from here a long chain of artificial behavior.
5. acknowledge obstetric system have become normal delivery in pathology, have medicalized to delirium than 50% of caesarean sections in some countries did not observe the extreme fragility of the newborn and have turned the sacred act of birth in a simple extraction and handling of infants.
6. acknowledge the pediatricians have mistaken beliefs and prejudices with true science, have disrupted millions of potential Breastfeeding with false standards of disease have become a pattern of mammalian sleep and putting their views on the recommendations of the WHO.
7. acknowledge the neurologists and psychiatrists of over-diagnosis of hyperactivity, and drugging and nullify a generation of children (despite the observed and reported side effects) with Ritalin / Rubifren: cocaine pediatric
8. acknowledge to psychologists to thrive at the expense of all system failures in parenting, to do honor to his name (psyche = soul), to create theories that have justified the continuing domestication of children by canceling the maternal instinct that mild was (overprotection, lack of boundaries, permissiveness for agreeing too much, spoiling, etc..), and have invented a false early socialization that does not exist until much later (6-7 years when it is established brain laterality).
9. acknowledge the false gurus Vintage: Spock / Ferber / Valman / Estivill and followers behaviorists apologist for torture methods and sell social insensitivity, cruelty and disrespect for children. Had an Emotional Hague Tribunal, all these characters have been convicted of suffering humanity.
10. acknowledge the classic feminist women have been maimed by humiliating our femininity and motherhood, and have sold our children into a false release was simply a change place of oppression, and perpetuated and strengthened the system and the dominant values: masculinity, competition, predation, nest. There was never any social revolution, but a continuity with another face. Does support Work and parenting but transforming that there is that rather system abduct us and creature abandon.
11. to acknowledge women's magazines encourage women models mindless, consumerist, silicone, hypersexual when they have children who become mothers caring for virtual remote control to his creatures to blow Visa and continue with their stressful lives without flinching or a heel.
12. acknowledge the educational system of prematurity, have outdated plans that do not meet the actual needs of learning through play and freedom of expression, encourage the submission and obedience and prevent independent thought processes that can find creative one's own path in life.
13. acknowledge all of society to be adult-centered and have excluded infants and children daily life of motherhood and parenting underestimate considering it a waste of talent of women but to value it as production within the economic system (either as player or as a caregiver).
14. acknowledge Welfare state life kidnapping of babies by enclosing them in early care who become a kind of "day orphanages" well decorated, while forcing both parents to work away from home to survive in a suffocating life model, having spent the concept of "it takes a village to raise a child" to the loneliness and helplessness of 8 babies per caregiver, to have family-friendly policies and labor miserable, the lack of decent family support , and obviously you have created a malaise in society according to WHO in 2020, depression will be the second disease.
15. And of course, women accused of not listening to your heart or your gut, having sacrificed their children to devour the system (because they already were), access to maternity and childbirth with very little information and therefore with an attitude of docile girls who delegate their role in the other, not fight or exiled from this unjust economic model even within the home, but to direct the anger and frustration (consciously or not) against their children, desensitizes to his cries and calls at night, obsessing over the training and standards (which basically help them to them to have a structure and order its abandonment desculpabilizarse and real), and focus all their efforts on areas outside the home.
These 15 officers have to relocate several decades with an upbringing steeped in the light spirit of Herod underestimate the importance of full compliance with the instincts and needs of children, and have created a society DES-Madrid no love, no self-confident, not empathetic with others, which is the cause of the current state of the Earth.
Fortunately, this situation has never been 100% and always has been widespread pediatricians, neurologists, gynecologists, midwives, psychologists, magazines, schools and parents raising dissident officer, who have suffered much ridicule, misunderstanding and social tripping, but have kept the light on for everyone who came back with his eyes open.
detachment This model has forced us to study and report in depth (sometimes more than many professionals), have forced us to continually cite the WHO, to pry into anthropological studies to understand the effect of cortisol and alteration of the amygdala, to compare different cultures, meet maternity aid in northern Europe, etc. But they made us stronger.
And so it is time to stop justifying the mammalian aging as whimsical personal preference, and convey that is the only possible solution for the planet. And we shout with pride that the scientific evidence, instinct, world history, heart and Ethics are on our side.
We are in a new paradigm that is the conscious motherhood, career and love fully in line with other social transformations: more power healthy respect and concern for the environment, growth of natural and alternative medicine, green energy, new forms of spirituality, etc..
The question now is what kind of parenting you choose, but what kind of world you want to live: in today's children and parents separate domain of adrenalin and frustration, or a world oxytocin, love, mergers and emotional well-being.
The Policy will have to do their homework and raise the GDP of aid to families of the current 1.1% (in Spain) to more than 2% which is the European level, increase maternity leave, encourage the creation of familiar spaces, groups and mutual assistance in maternity care to compensate for the isolation and loneliness of so many families in our society, etc.
But really we need to change the status quo and the social mindset is us: the women themselves.
The woman who exploits and brings the world one child also exploits of society somehow. In pregnancy, childbirth, extended breastfeeding and attachment with your child is gestated physical health, emotional functioning, their ability to love, to relate to the world, respect for life, his joy of life and dignity. This is simply: POWER, and to prevent what we have made every effort to detach ourselves from our children, because humans bred this way are wise and do not share a model of society based on such lies and injustice. "
Article copied from the blog ... maternity continuum
Breastfeeding is the most subversive act against society: is free, create healthy and happy children , filling the stomach, heart, and soul chakras. In infancy there are some who still have not told us and is the lactation Quantum the bond between the baby and the universe through the mother. Breastfeeding is the alchemy of life and is the transmitter of the ancestral knowledge of millions of women through a chain of love energy. Therefore, we must defend it, normalize it and support its use as a priority.
now appears that we are few, as a small wave in the ocean, but will be millions, and this wave will become a tsunami that when you reach the coast sweep the system. The new times are with us.
Another world is necessary and is within easy reach with only three requirements: Oxytocin, addiction and consciousness.
