Cristin This was written in response to a release by a traumatic birth, I found a beautiful and everything he says, so with your permission I copy here if you can help someone else:
The birth is a trauma, some will say that what went wrong, but they are the minority, the rality is that no one prepares you for what comes at you like stand continually make the mistake of trivializing, when the reality is it is an experience that surpasses, that puts you inside out, is a little death, the pain breaks through all your defenses, you naked in front of the truth that there are master of your life, you're scared ... no, actually scares you .... makes you completely vulnerable, and you are suddenly at a frequency that were not even guessed existed, so unless we feel we are always powerful, we believe we have control, we believe we have rights ... . and do not remember that being alive is a miracle, it is a privilege that is not ours ... I remember that after delivery room someone came to my last comment as the latest news of telederiario, on which a man was trapped alive in his car in an accident and that when they finally go to rescue had died ... this type of news we hear without hearing so many times ... he remembers that at that time, the news shot through my heart, I walked down a time when the head of the anonymous man, I felt something very strange, as if he were in his shoes I could almost smell his fear of the pain, the loneliness of feeling close to death with no one to grab ... gave me a lot of great sadness for him ... and it struck me feel this way because it is normal to remain in the data and you're not transcend the facts, do not connect with the emotions of people, we are in that line ever so open and so empathetic, so we are never out of our ego as at that time, which we have dissociated from our bodies, which we have distanced ourselves unknowingly, to his betrayal of us feel so much pain, motherhood opens a window into the soul, gives prominence, us first saw life with their eyes .... the soul, not body, for the first time you see reality, are a better person, more empathetic, more aware, more vulnerable, more humble ...
But the problem is that we are unprepared, and we have great experience, we are left with the fear, humiliation and resentment that we have felt the need of both people and feel so far away, we forget them as us when we feel safe, we are not in this tune ... blame can not be just spectators, as happens to us, forgetting allows us to continue with life, with day to day.
Fear opens doors, knock down walls, leaves you naked and shivering ... but when it happens, your ego is easily forgotten, and will again take control, asks you to get mad, you look guilty ... I discovered that there are none. if you have had cesarean that is the problem, if you made it be that one, if it did intervene, and if not out of laziness ... when the only thing we could complain that the people really is not to be tuned with us, joining us in our solitude, not loved us to the point of becoming a bit on us to be well able to share the burden of that time, insurance you remember more than the gestures that the actions, words maneuvers ... reproach what really is their lack of love ...
but if you are objective you will forgive me, because it makes sense that we are not always in that line that you commented, can you imagine?, uff could not overcome the sadness of the world ...
But is that emotional openness comes with lot of motherhood, is it necessary to train you in the care of another human being, one that will depend entirely on you, without that feeling like we would protect, love mother that they are talking about ... That is why you think you're so strong, so special, so superhuman?
I've always said that everyone should give birth, especially men, we should all go through that experience, the world would certainly be a better place. To see who had eggs of taking lives after having discharged, after having experienced the miracle involved and have experienced the devotion to the universal pain that makes us equal ... everyone would consider it most unfortunate of human beings and less angry right?
But the problem is that we are unprepared, and we have great experience, we are left with the fear, humiliation and resentment that we have felt the need of both people and feel so far away, we forget them as us when we feel safe, we are not in this tune ... blame can not be just spectators, as happens to us, forgetting allows us to continue with life, with day to day.
Fear opens doors, knock down walls, leaves you naked and shivering ... but when it happens, your ego is easily forgotten, and will again take control, asks you to get mad, you look guilty ... I discovered that there are none. if you have had cesarean that is the problem, if you made it be that one, if it did intervene, and if not out of laziness ... when the only thing we could complain that the people really is not to be tuned with us, joining us in our solitude, not loved us to the point of becoming a bit on us to be well able to share the burden of that time, insurance you remember more than the gestures that the actions, words maneuvers ... reproach what really is their lack of love ...
but if you are objective you will forgive me, because it makes sense that we are not always in that line that you commented, can you imagine?, uff could not overcome the sadness of the world ...
But is that emotional openness comes with lot of motherhood, is it necessary to train you in the care of another human being, one that will depend entirely on you, without that feeling like we would protect, love mother that they are talking about ... That is why you think you're so strong, so special, so superhuman?
I've always said that everyone should give birth, especially men, we should all go through that experience, the world would certainly be a better place. To see who had eggs of taking lives after having discharged, after having experienced the miracle involved and have experienced the devotion to the universal pain that makes us equal ... everyone would consider it most unfortunate of human beings and less angry right?
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